Being a girlfriend is not just about being beautiful and attractive for your guy. It’s not just about letting him chase you, letting him do sweet things every time you’re mad at him and not just receiving flowers and gifts during your anniversaries. It’s not about doing those girly things just to get his attention and not just about feeling might every time he did everything you want. It’s also being an emotional partner where you support him in every opportunity that he takes, you appreciate everything that he does for you and you thank him for doing it, you remind him on the things he must do and what he must not. Just because you know that you can always keep him on his feet, doesn’t mean you can manipulate him. You understand him not just as a partner but as an individual too. You help him in every way showing him, that in a relationship, there’s no “I” or “you”, there’s only “we” and “us”. You know also that a man has their ego, and even sometimes, you still understand that it’s a part of his nature. A girlfriend is not just a term, it also has responsibilities that every girl must know. You’re a friend, a sister, a second mom, a teacher, and a best friend.
No one said it was going to be easy .
As I was standing by the kitchen doorway, I feel the overwhelming questions from my whole family around the room as he reaches for the food on the table. He smiles politely and replies in a mix of Tagalog, Fujianese, and English that I barely understand. I’m not sure how exactly everyone in the room was related, but it was somewhere along the lines of our grandparents were bros… I’m not 100% sure. Nevertheless, we are still family and we all get together three times a year. I don’t understand how he does it. He’s standing there in a sea of people he’s never met before, so graceful and friendly. I don’t know how he does it. I watch him, with his eyes sparkling, as he speaks to all my relatives. The way he talks, the way he makes eye contact with everyone, the way he smiles as his whole face lits up. In that very moment, I realized I can’t even begin to imagine how much he loves me.